Borderline Personality Disorder
You are not “too much”.
Living with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) often feels like living without an "emotional skin." Joy feels ecstatic, but sadness feels like despair, and anger can feel like a physical fire. You may move through your day feeling like you are on an exhausting rollercoaster, reacting intensely to shifts in your environment that others might not even notice. We want you to know that you aren’t "broken" or "too much." You simply have a sensitive nervous system that needs a new set of tools to navigate a world that can feel overwhelming.
The Fear of Abandonment & The Cycle of Connection.
At the heart of BPD is often a deep, terrifying fear of being alone or rejected. You might find yourself frantically trying to keep people close, only to push them away when you feel unsafe. This "I hate you, don't leave me" push-pull dynamic is painful for you and confusing for the people you love. We help you slow down these reactions. By understanding your attachment triggers and learning to pause before you react, we help you break the cycle of chaotic relationships and build connections that feel secure, consistent, and safe.
Beyond Talk Therapy: Building a Life Worth Living.
Navigating the complexities of BPD requires more than just standard talk therapy. You need concrete skills to handle the intensity of the moment. We utilize evidence-based frameworks, including Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), to help you regain control when emotions threaten to take over. We move beyond just "venting" about the week's problems to teaching you practical strategies for distress tolerance, emotional regulation, mindfulness, and interpersonal effectiveness. You will learn how to survive a crisis without making it worse, how to ask for what you need without damaging relationships, and how to find a middle ground between rigid thinking and chaotic feeling.
We also integrate Mentalization-Based Therapy (MBT) to help you understand the minds of others, and your own. Often, BPD makes it feel like others are hurting you on purpose, or that your own thoughts are facts. We help you slow down that interpretation process, creating a "pause" where you can choose how to respond rather than just reacting. Our goal isn't just to stop the pain or manage symptoms; it is to help you build what DBT creator Marsha Linehan calls "a life worth living", a life defined by purpose, connection, and genuine joy, not just survival.
A Steady Space for Your Healing.
Many clients with BPD worry that they are "too difficult" for therapy, or they have had therapists give up on them in the past. At Healing Lane, we are trained to handle the intensity. We provide a steady, grounded container for your big emotions. We won't walk on eggshells around you, and we won't judge you for your struggles. Instead, we will offer the honest feedback, direct support, and consistent relationship you need to learn to trust yourself and others again.